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    Eat, Drink, and Be Murdered

    Depression is real.  It took about two months for my anti-depressant medication to kick in last year.  There was no overnight miracle.  I knew my anti-depressants were working when I felt ready to throw a party.  And not just any party.  I wanted to throw a murder mystery party. Had I ever thrown a murder mystery party before?  No.  Did I know anyone else who had thrown one or even attended one?  Double negative.  For some reason, it seemed like a good idea.  I sent out a mass text message to my tribe and waited for a response.  Almost instantly, people were on board for my impulsive decision.  Once people…

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    Faulty Vision

    Fun Fact:  I didn’t want to go to college.  I vividly remember touring the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville in my junior year of high school.  The campus was HUGE!  There were so many students hustling and bustling around.  While it was beautiful, I knew it wasn’t for me. Before deciding to attend the University of Central Arkansas, I toured that campus too.  It was nowhere near as large, but I figured I could tough it out there.  Plus, it was close to home.  I didn’t want to be too far away, because I didn’t want to go in the first place. Bible Study Brother found it odd that I…

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    When I Grow Up…

    When you look at my age, and my bills, you would consider me a grown-up.  I own a home and a car.  I have a Master’s degree.  I’m gainfully employed.  But I don’t feel grown-up.  On the inside, I’m a kid waiting to experience the magic of adulthood. I thought being a grown-up meant that I could do WHATEVER I wanted to do…whenever I wanted to do it.  That is partly true.  But there are so many things that tie me down.  So many responsibilities that I didn’t have when I was child. My therapist really got my wheels spinning in my most recent session.  He told me that I…

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    A New Vision

    Friday night was not what I expected.  When I returned from Utah in early December, I was optimistic and full of hope.  I had energy and wanted to share some of that energy with my friends and family.  I called Bible Study Mama to secure my favorite venue (her house) for the first Friday of 2020.  I wanted to have a vision board party.  I entitled this extravaganza 2020 Vision. Bible Study Mama quickly gave the okay.  I sent out text messages to members of my tribe and invited them to participate.  Some responses were immediate, and the rest were crickets.  I wasn’t deterred.  I pressed Bible Study Brother on…

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    2020 Vision

    I have the privilege of meeting with the bright minds of tomorrow on a daily basis.  I have to recognize that it is a privilege.  When my little friends are having a rough day, it can feel like a punishment.  Yet, my job has so many bright spots.  Literally, every day a little person will do something that makes me laugh and smile.  They question everything and hold nothing back. Just the other day, I was in a struggle with one of my tiniest friends.  Well, tiny is kind of a misnomer.  He’s young in age but big in body.  He’s not yet walking.  He has mastered the art of…

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    Imitation of Life

    My favorite movie is “Imitation of Life.”  If you’ve never seen it, you should check it out.  Although it’s my favorite movie, I haven’t watched it often.  I know people that watch the same movies over and over, so they know the lines by heart.  When I was a kid, I watched musicals on repeat.  I made my brother learn all the songs and choreography to our favorite Disney movies.  But as an adult, I have moved away from that. I’m a fan of this movie because it’s a timeless tale.  It’s about coming of age in a segregated world.  It’s about finding your place.  It’s about realizing who and…

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    Auld Lang Syne

    The last day in the year of our Lord 2019 has arrived!!!!  We made it ya’ll!!!  This is definitely cause for celebration for me, because this has been a YEAR!  You want to talk about tried by the fire?!?!?!  Yet, here I stand.  I’m grateful and humbled and amazed. The words “auld lang syne” are Scottish and mean “old long since” when translated to English.  Basically, it means that we remember the good old days.  The time that has passed us by.  So, it’s a perfectly appropriate phrase to wrap up the end of the year.  Really, we’re wrapping up the end of a decade. My Soul Sister and I…

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    I Whip My Hair

    Whenever it’s time to get the ends of my hair trimmed, I get a blowout.  My stylist washes and uses a blow dryer to dry my hair.  Then she uses a flat iron to further straighten my hair and to add a little curl.  She always does an amazing job.  My hair has body and shine.  It moves when there is the slightest breeze in the air.  Pretty cool. When I was a little girl, I would walk around the house with a t-shirt on my head.  I loved long hair, and I felt that this was the best way to achieve it.  Don’t get me wrong.  I had long…

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    God Allowed

    God allowed a little girl to be molested for years.  She didn’t tell anyone or ask for help.  It was her secret shame.  Eventually, she told her mother, but the damage had been done.  She was forever scarred and broken.  I’m that little girl. God allowed me to make one horrible decision after the other.  To be honest, I didn’t even realize how much molestation changed my life course.  I’m very guarded with my feelings and my friendship.  There is an impressive gate set around my heart that has strict orders to keep most people out.  To keep them away from the real me. God allowed me to spiral into…

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    Faith and Fumes

    Bible Study Cousin asked me if I bought any Bath & Body Works candles on the day of their big sale.  She knows I love Bath & Body Works.  I shop the semi-annual sale in December and June faithfully.  I actually kind of have a Bath & Body Works store in my house that my family members always want to shop at for free.99.  Like, I have sooooo much product.  My reply to her was that I’m existing on faith and fumes. When she asked me that question, I had a total of -$4 in my bank account.  Well in the one bank account that I don’t touch. And that’s…

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