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We’re Cooking Now!!!
Do you remember how old you were when you were allowed to use the stove on your own? I vividly remember. I was 10. I had been chomping at the bit for ages. I wanted to be unleashed and let loose in the kitchen. After years of helping around with meals, I was ready to set out on my own. LET ME LOOSE PEOPLE! Of course, my grandma is the person that let me off the leash. My summers with her were epic and include some of my favorite memories. My first solo cooking adventure was a classic meal. I was making hamburgers. And she was my sous chef. And…
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A Better Way
Writing has not always been a form of release for me. I grew up watching soap operas with my great-grandmother, Ma Patra. I do not really recall the actors sitting down to write heartfelt letters each time they felt something strongly. I remember them screaming. I remember them yelling and speaking passionately about whatever was on their mind. Honey, we watched our stories religiously, and I soaked it all in. By the time I moved in with my mom and stepfather, I had a million ways to express my emotions. I stepped into my new home fully locked and loaded. Now, please do not get the wrong impression of me.…
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The Waiting
One of the worst parts of the day that Tomica died was the waiting. We waited all day for an update. I am not being dramatic or drumming up the suspense. I mean that we sat together in a family room close to the ICU all day long. They needed to run more tests. And those tests took time. Four bland walls, some chairs, random end tables, lamps, a TV, and tissues. I do not remember if the TV was on or off. I do not remember what we talked about, but I so clearly remember the waiting. I remember silent prayers and hope. Hoping beyond hope that it all…
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An Attitude of Gratitude: Road Trips
Road trips have long been part of our family fabric. Car riding is in our blood. We pack our bags and head out for that open road. Oh, and snacks…we pack snacks too. (You know my family is big and big on food…LOL!) We were sitting around Bible Study Mama’s kitchen table. Bible Study Brother asked for volunteers to help him drive to Tacoma. Since car riding is in our blood, I am sure that you assume that I jumped at the opportunity. How could I resist three days of a fabulous cross-country adventure? I quickly told him “no.” While I do not mind driving, I was not eager to…
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An Attitude of Gratitude: Grandma
While I know that I have written about my grandma before and some of our shenanigans, I do not recall ever just focusing solely on who she is as a person. I have always been a little mature for my age. And my grandma certainly fostered and encouraged my maturity. I so looked forward to spending time with her. I would write her letters to check on her. I would call her if I thought the grown-ups in my house were not doing a good job meeting my demands. And she always stuck up for me. In my eyes, she is not like a typical grandma. Or at least, not…
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One Of The Guys
Back in the summer of 2004, I got to spend 3 weeks with my father at Arkansas Governor’s School. For those who don’t know, this is basically like a summer camp for what college will be like for Juniors before their Senior year in high school. This was a huge deal for me as I never really got to spend this much time with my dad so I was over the moon about it. I don’t know what I expected to get from my time up there, but what I got was something I’ll never forget. There were two Residential Assistants there who were pivotal in my experience, Everette Callaway…
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History In The Making
Hey ya’ll. I am back for a couple of days. Hope you missed me. I missed you! It would be absolutely absurd to let the day go by without acknowledging the history that has occurred this weekend. Vice President-elect Kamala Harris is on her way to the White House. First woman to become Vice President. First Black person period to ever occupy the office. What a day. This is not a big deal for people that see themselves represented in mainstream media daily. This is not a big deal for folks that believe that racism is a myth. But for me…a black woman living in a harsh world. It’s a…
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Fix Your Faith
If a picture is worth 1,000 words, then my facial expressions are worth 10,000 words. When I think something, it is written all over my face. Wearing face masks has not only helped slow the spread of COVID-19, it has also helped disguise my true thoughts about many situations. Well, at least when I am in public places. See, the trouble with wearing masks all the time is that I have gotten used to being carried away with my facial expressions. I have spent months wearing my feelings on my face and no one has been the wiser. Well, except for the fact that I have had 800 million Zoom…
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Stir It Up
What are you believing God for? It is not a rhetorical question. I really want you to think about it. I really want you to think about it. I am going to be honest with you. Sometimes, I feel like I wear God out. With my questions. With my requests. With my desires. It was not that long ago that I realized that I had stopped believing. I had stopped expecting. Writing the blog has stirred up my expectancy. You can go back and read the blog “I’m Expecting” and feel the excitement leap off the screen. My hunger and hope were renewed and revived. I wanted more. Dreamed bigger. …
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Did Someone Call Hoarders?
I am somewhat of a hoarder. I come by it honestly though. My grandma holds on to things too. You never know when the thing that was in that box for all those years may come in handy. Seriously. I fight against that hoarding instinct at times. Not often but sometimes. I mean, you can get in my house and walk around without fear of towering piles of my precious collectibles falling on your head. But behind these closets and closed doors…well, let’s just leave those things where they are. I have a closet full of boxes that I did not unpack after my home renovation two years ago. I…